How I Stopped Letting Old Stories Control My Life And You Can Too
Let’s be honest. I used to think mindset work was fluff. Like, how could a few affirmations change my bank account, my confidence, or my ability to show up? But here’s the truth: your outer world mirrors your inner script. I used to set goals like a pro—vision boards, planners, Pinterest quotes, all of it. But behind every goal was a silent, nagging belief that made me feel like I wasn’t built for the version of success I was chasing. I had the motivation, but underneath it all, I was dragging old stories into every single decision. Stories like:
“I’m not the kind of person who succeeds.”
“Money just isn’t for people like me.”
“What if I put myself out there and look stupid?”
And the worst part? I didn’t even know I was believing them. I just kept wondering why things weren’t clicking, why I’d lose momentum, or why I was constantly stuck in overthinking. These beliefs weren’t just harmless thoughts; they were my default operating system. They ran the show until I finally started challenging them.
Stop chasing goals you don’t even believe are possible
If you’re constantly setting goals that never stick or fizzle out halfway through, it’s not because you’re lazy or undisciplined—it’s because deep down, you don’t fully believe they’re possible for you. This is where so many smart, driven women get stuck. You can be ambitious and still be sabotaged by subconscious doubt. Before you pour energy into another to-do list or sign up for a new course, pause. Ask yourself: What truly matters to me in this moment? Am I doing this because it aligns with who I want to become, or am I trying to prove something to someone else?
I used to chase goals that looked good on paper but didn’t reflect who I actually wanted to be. It wasn’t until I started asking, “What belief is sitting quietly in the background convincing me this won’t work?” that things started to shift. When I started doing the deeper work—not just on my habits but on my thinking—I stopped hustling in circles and started building real momentum.
Mindset work that makes a difference
Forget the fluffy stuff. Mindset isn’t just about feeling good—it’s about thinking better. It’s rewiring what you believe to be true about yourself, your potential, and what’s actually possible for your life. Here's what changed the game for me:
1. Get brutally honest about what you think about money and success
Sit down with a pen and ask yourself: What do I truly believe about success? Write it down—even the cringey stuff. I found thoughts like, “If I make too much money, people will judge me,” or “If I’m too successful, I won’t be relatable anymore.” It wasn’t pretty, but it was honest. And that’s where change starts.
2. Figure out who handed you those beliefs
Were they your mom’s beliefs? A teacher who shut you down? A culture that told you that women should be small, modest, and grateful for whatever they get? When I traced my beliefs back, I realized half of them weren’t even mine. Once you can separate your voice from the ones that shaped you, those beliefs lose their grip.
3. Challenge it like a lawyer
Start treating your inner critic like it’s on trial. Ask: Where’s the proof that this belief is true? Then flip it. What if the opposite is true—and I just haven’t acted like it yet? This step isn’t about blind positivity. It’s about mental discipline.
4. Replace it with something believable (not fluffy)
Don’t go straight from “I’m broke and stressed” to “I’m a millionaire queen of abundance” if that doesn’t feel real. Try, “I’m learning to manage money better every day,” or “I’m becoming the kind of person who builds wealth.” These small upgrades to your thinking are like reps in the gym; they build over time.
5. Take one small action that contradicts the old belief
This is where it all clicks. Action is what tells your brain, “We don’t live there anymore.” If your old belief says no one cares what you think, post that idea anyway. If your story is “I’m not good with money,” start tracking every bit of money that comes in. One uncomfortable action will always teach you more than 10 hours of journaling.
The hard truth? It’s not the plan. It’s the belief behind it.
Most people don’t need a new planner or productivity hack—they need a new belief system. The real block isn’t your schedule, your strategy, or your skillset. It’s the outdated identity you’re still dragging into the room.
You don’t need a five-year vision board. You need a reason not to quit this week. And that starts with looking at your life and asking: What would living authentically actually look like for me? Not what looks good online, not what sounds impressive, but what actually feels right for the version of me I’m becoming. Then? Do one thing that version of you would do today. It doesn’t have to be flashy. Just different enough to prove to yourself: I’m not living from the old story anymore.
You’re just operating from an old script
The version of me who kept sabotaging her own progress? She wasn’t weak. She was scared. She was repeating what she’d always known. But once I stopped blaming myself and started questioning the script, everything changed. You don’t need to manifest harder. You don’t need to be more “positive.” Let’s call out the old belief and replace it with one you’re ready to live by. And then? Start acting like you believe it. Even before it feels true.
Now let’s make it real
If you're ready to do the work, here’s where to start:
Write down one belief that’s been holding you back. Be honest.
Ask yourself where it came from. Who handed it to you?
Rewrite it into something more honest and more helpful.
Take one action this week that future-you would take without hesitation.
That's how you shift. Not with a miracle. With a decision.
And if you’re ready to go deeper to stop letting those beliefs hold you back and start showing up with real confidence, clarity, and momentum, I’m here to help. Book a free consultation session and let’s create a concrete, personalized plan together. Let’s turn your “maybe one day” into right now.
You don’t have to do it alone.
